Very close to 2010 now. Last January I would have taken bets on not reaching this point in my life. Its been a long slog but thanks to my friends and my supportive boyfriend, himself positive, I made it. I feel good. I am not sick. I am not weak. I am not sad. I walk about and look good. But my mind is always thinking about this condition. One day it will take me by surprise and disable me.
This time last year the churches in Zimbabwe were publicly praying for Mugabe's death. This time last year it looked like Zimbabwe was in the grip of Cholera and HIV and the whole country was weak and on its death bed. Today Zimbabwe is breathing again and sometimes taking a walk outside. Mugabe is still alive. Younger leaders are pretending to rule with him.
I am alive too and I can go out and smell the sea and walk on the beach in the blazing sun.
For now I try to be positive. Happy New Year to all of you. See you in 2010.
Monday 28 December 2009
Saturday 5 September 2009
Promiscuity in Zimbabwe
I was in Zimbabwe for nearly two weeks and got back on Friday 4th Sept. There is a much higher incidence of men and women having affairs and socially unauthorised sex. In the absence of any social rules, post recession, many see sex as an easy industry to join and to take their chances. What I also noticed in the street pilling rubbish is the many packets of condoms left on the ground. This is a good sign that people are indeed buying condoms, and hopefully using them when they need to.
The message about one faithful sex partner seems now to be a far fetched adea to many.
The message about one faithful sex partner seems now to be a far fetched adea to many.
Saturday 4 July 2009
Circucision kills.
The story of South African boys killed by circucision advocates is sad but it is one that is true to how people like to avoid facts and figures and and simple solutions, in favour od silliness and propaganda. Why would a normal caring parent send his/her little teenage boy to a camp knowing his penis will be interferred with by a chap with no formal training?
Parent authorised child abuse of this kind should really see both the circumsiser and the parent in court facing a long jail term. Parents should be a little more responsible and the government should be harsh on those who shouw a disregard for their children's safety.
Africans seen relaxed about what can befall their children.
Rotting penises
Parent authorised child abuse of this kind should really see both the circumsiser and the parent in court facing a long jail term. Parents should be a little more responsible and the government should be harsh on those who shouw a disregard for their children's safety.
Africans seen relaxed about what can befall their children.
Rotting penises
Tuesday 24 March 2009
The Pope and his condoms.
The Pope is a pratt and I do wish he would just refrain from commenting on matters sexual, of which he knows very little unless he has been experimenting with his bishops or fiddling with his congregation as has been shown countless times within the catholic priesthood, but in the case of condoms he was right about one thing. AIDS is not caused by failure to use condoms. AIDS is caused by promiscuity and the solution to that is not condoms, but change of attitude. Research can do whatever reserach wants to do, but without these basc truths, research is wasting its time. Condoms give false security and in Africa condoms simply do not prevent AIDS because sexual practices are different from those in other places.
The female condom is much better but many women in Africa wash and reuse it meaning their multiple male partners can be infected while the woman herself is safer. I like that idea myself. I really do not mind promiscuous men being infected. They deserve it. Just that it does not apply to married women whose husbands are promiscuous, and so the women are not protected.
Research is done on current attitudes and the pope was talking about ideas for social engineering and how best to control sex within communities. Those who responded angrily to his comments are looking at how to protect currently living people from HIV infection, a clearly difficult task. In my view, HIV is one of those infections which you do not get if you do not want it, unless you are a female in Africa, in which case you will almost definitely get it. HIV is spread by men in Africa. The same men who hate condoms. The pope is saying to people, "Adopt a different attitude."
- Condoms are not the best prevention method against HIV infection. faithfulness to one's spouse or partner is.
- Condoms do burst and expose the users.
- Condoms in Africa are not a financial priority. Governments, such as that of Zimbabwe give too few per week, leaving people exposed.
- Condoms can be manufactured with faults.
- Condoms are not made available in remote places where they are needed most.
- Condoms are for the rich but are more needed by the poor whom authorities totally ignore.
- African men, and black men in general simply hate condoms and would rather have sex without. When I was working, the highest incidents of resistance to condoms was always among black men, whether in Africa, Europe or America. Other races have no real problems with condoms.
The female condom is much better but many women in Africa wash and reuse it meaning their multiple male partners can be infected while the woman herself is safer. I like that idea myself. I really do not mind promiscuous men being infected. They deserve it. Just that it does not apply to married women whose husbands are promiscuous, and so the women are not protected.
Research is done on current attitudes and the pope was talking about ideas for social engineering and how best to control sex within communities. Those who responded angrily to his comments are looking at how to protect currently living people from HIV infection, a clearly difficult task. In my view, HIV is one of those infections which you do not get if you do not want it, unless you are a female in Africa, in which case you will almost definitely get it. HIV is spread by men in Africa. The same men who hate condoms. The pope is saying to people, "Adopt a different attitude."
Wednesday 4 March 2009
Why only Canada?
Canada is taking a lead in arresting men who have unprotected sex while they are HIV positive. It is stange to hear of a country that actually discourages that practice. If Zimbabwe, Botswana, Swaziland, South Africa, Haiti, Zambia, etc were to start arresting people for that kind of thing, there would be more people in jails than out of them. I am sure someone will soon be pulling out the race card against Canadian police. Where we come from (Zimbabwe) condoms are seen as spoilers and no woman can ask a man to wear one without risking a violent attack from him. Women are not yet human in Zimbabwe and I really feel sorry for foreigners who have relations with Zimbo men and hope that the men actually care about them. If you are not Zimbo, have a full sexual screening with a Zimbo man before you decide to have sex with him. In fact the same applies to any man from the SADC region. Their view of women is the same throughout. They will never accept responsibility for your sexual welfare. You have to do that for yourself.
http://www.newzimbabwe.com/pages/canada6.19478.html
Well done Canada, the fist country to take HIV infection seriously.
http://www.newzimbabwe.com/pages/canada6.19478.html
Well done Canada, the fist country to take HIV infection seriously.
Thursday 5 February 2009
She died yesterday
She is exactly 21 days older than me. At 21married her boyfriend of 4 years. They have 2 children, both boys and both healthy, but they lost one, who lived only for two weeks born when both parents were sick already. She told me her tale in 2005 when I was in Zimbabwe, and I did what I could to get her tested. I remember the wait for results. I stayed with her and kept telling her I was positive myself but I was not sick. She was sick. Her husband was sick but had refused to come for a test, the 'small house' (term used in Zimbabwe for concubine) was sick.
She never got to get ARVs. Zimbabwe prefers the sick to die, instead of wasting money earmarked for politicians to loot,on medicines for the ctizens. Her husband, now too weak to have sex with anyone, is being cared for by his mother. It was him who infected his wife, himself having had it from the small house and possibly others. There is othing more evil than a man and I hate men with a passion. There are times when I really have the urge to kill the lot of them.
The two boys will be orphaned soon. Their grandmother has no resources to look after them, so unless a do-gooder steps in, they are condemned to a life of abject poverty and will live at the mercy of those whose parents have been more careful. They are lucky to be boys because they have a much higher choice of whether they want to get HIV or not. Girls have little choice.
I am not angry, I just feel like the end is nigh for the human race. It interests me how a whole nation can ignore a death rate of over 4000 per week since 2001, when the cause of death is something totally avoidable. That is 8 years of 4000 per week and nobody bothers to see it as a national catastrophe, ot even employers, community leaders, church leaders, or anyone of renoun. it is a unique case of national self negligence.
Cholera has been treated the same way. The men of Zimbabwe are condemned to having an affinity for diseases and death. Totally avoidable diseases are just left to affect the wives and children. Nobody cares.
She will be buried today in a cheap coffin made by the other cheap men in her locale. Well wishers have sent in donations of cash in Rand. The husband is too weak to count it. He will have been told that his wife has died, he knows he infected her but he does not accept responsibility for her death. The last time I spoke to him, August 2008, he said, "If Vongai had been more sexual, I would not have needed to go out of the home." In other words, the fault was with Vongai, and for that she died yesterday, and for the same reason he will die soon. The two boys will be orphaned.
She never got to get ARVs. Zimbabwe prefers the sick to die, instead of wasting money earmarked for politicians to loot,on medicines for the ctizens. Her husband, now too weak to have sex with anyone, is being cared for by his mother. It was him who infected his wife, himself having had it from the small house and possibly others. There is othing more evil than a man and I hate men with a passion. There are times when I really have the urge to kill the lot of them.
The two boys will be orphaned soon. Their grandmother has no resources to look after them, so unless a do-gooder steps in, they are condemned to a life of abject poverty and will live at the mercy of those whose parents have been more careful. They are lucky to be boys because they have a much higher choice of whether they want to get HIV or not. Girls have little choice.
I am not angry, I just feel like the end is nigh for the human race. It interests me how a whole nation can ignore a death rate of over 4000 per week since 2001, when the cause of death is something totally avoidable. That is 8 years of 4000 per week and nobody bothers to see it as a national catastrophe, ot even employers, community leaders, church leaders, or anyone of renoun. it is a unique case of national self negligence.
Cholera has been treated the same way. The men of Zimbabwe are condemned to having an affinity for diseases and death. Totally avoidable diseases are just left to affect the wives and children. Nobody cares.
She will be buried today in a cheap coffin made by the other cheap men in her locale. Well wishers have sent in donations of cash in Rand. The husband is too weak to count it. He will have been told that his wife has died, he knows he infected her but he does not accept responsibility for her death. The last time I spoke to him, August 2008, he said, "If Vongai had been more sexual, I would not have needed to go out of the home." In other words, the fault was with Vongai, and for that she died yesterday, and for the same reason he will die soon. The two boys will be orphaned.
Saturday 31 January 2009
Sex work will continue to increase
The one industry that will always be positively growing in Africa is Sex work. As long as wives refuse to devote to the sexual needs of their husbands and the husbands refuse to discuss the problem in the homes, sex workers will get more business.
I was talking to a Zimbabwean woman yesterday and she was saying she does not know why her husband has been seeing another woman who is even older that she is. She put it down to Mufuhwira (Obedience whichcraft administered on a man by a woman). The truth of the matter usually is on disatisfaction with sex with the wife. I asked her if she knew what her husband likes sexually. She thought he liked the same as any other man which does not say much for her or him.
I know that Zimbabwean men would rather just go to a sex worker than discuss any improvements with their wives. It is interesting to note that the majority of clients are married. It is unusual to get a single man visiting a sex worker.
The Government of National unity suggested to start on 11 February 2009 will bring a new era of sex work. If it works, more and more people will become affluent again but the majority will remain poor for years to come. Sex work will be a real option and the number of sex workers will increase. In Soth Africa the economy will deteriorate and sex work will insrease.
The interesting thing is there is no social class religious class or group immune to being clients for sex workers. Its a male thing. Most married men would like to try sex workers and once tried, we seem to be addictive to them. We are doing well considering we do not even advertise and we are rather dangerous to health.
Once a man has an erection in the presence of a sex worker, his health, education, responsibility, social standing, integrity, money, etc becomes totally irrelevant. If nobody reminds him to wear a condom, he would remember after the sex when panic sets in. We make money because men's brains are weaker than their penises.
OUr Zimbabwean first lady has used this fact for years.
I was talking to a Zimbabwean woman yesterday and she was saying she does not know why her husband has been seeing another woman who is even older that she is. She put it down to Mufuhwira (Obedience whichcraft administered on a man by a woman). The truth of the matter usually is on disatisfaction with sex with the wife. I asked her if she knew what her husband likes sexually. She thought he liked the same as any other man which does not say much for her or him.
I know that Zimbabwean men would rather just go to a sex worker than discuss any improvements with their wives. It is interesting to note that the majority of clients are married. It is unusual to get a single man visiting a sex worker.
The Government of National unity suggested to start on 11 February 2009 will bring a new era of sex work. If it works, more and more people will become affluent again but the majority will remain poor for years to come. Sex work will be a real option and the number of sex workers will increase. In Soth Africa the economy will deteriorate and sex work will insrease.
The interesting thing is there is no social class religious class or group immune to being clients for sex workers. Its a male thing. Most married men would like to try sex workers and once tried, we seem to be addictive to them. We are doing well considering we do not even advertise and we are rather dangerous to health.
Once a man has an erection in the presence of a sex worker, his health, education, responsibility, social standing, integrity, money, etc becomes totally irrelevant. If nobody reminds him to wear a condom, he would remember after the sex when panic sets in. We make money because men's brains are weaker than their penises.
OUr Zimbabwean first lady has used this fact for years.
Sex work will continue to increase
The one industry that will always be positively growing in Africa is Sex work. As long as wives refuse to devote to the sexual needs of their husbands and the husbands refuse to discuss the problem in the homes, sex workers will get more business.
I was talking to a Zimbabwean woman yesterday and she was saying she does not know why her husband has been seeing another woman who is even older that she is. She put it down to Mufuhwira (Obedience whichcraft administered on a man by a woman). The truth of the matter usually is on disatisfaction with sex with the wife. I asked her if she knew what her husband likes sexually. She thought he liked the same as any other man which does not say much for her or him.
I know that Zimbabwean men would rather just go to a sex worker than discuss any improvements with their wives. It is interesting to note that the majority of clients are married. It is unusual to get a single man visiting a sex worker.
The Government of National unity suggested to start on 11 February 2009 will bring a new era of sex work. If it works, more and more people will become affluent again but the majority will remain poor for years to come. Sex work will be a real option and the number of sex workers will increase. In Soth Africa the economy will deteriorate and sex work will insrease.
The interesting thing is there is no social class religious class or group immune to
I was talking to a Zimbabwean woman yesterday and she was saying she does not know why her husband has been seeing another woman who is even older that she is. She put it down to Mufuhwira (Obedience whichcraft administered on a man by a woman). The truth of the matter usually is on disatisfaction with sex with the wife. I asked her if she knew what her husband likes sexually. She thought he liked the same as any other man which does not say much for her or him.
I know that Zimbabwean men would rather just go to a sex worker than discuss any improvements with their wives. It is interesting to note that the majority of clients are married. It is unusual to get a single man visiting a sex worker.
The Government of National unity suggested to start on 11 February 2009 will bring a new era of sex work. If it works, more and more people will become affluent again but the majority will remain poor for years to come. Sex work will be a real option and the number of sex workers will increase. In Soth Africa the economy will deteriorate and sex work will insrease.
The interesting thing is there is no social class religious class or group immune to
Sunday 18 January 2009
Thinking of visiting Zimbabwe
I don't know why I should think about Zimbabwe but my mind wants to visit the hell hole. I probably will drive up there. It takes around 20 hours to get there and when I get there I always have the same sinking feeling. Everything is bad in Zimbabwe. Maybe I will wait till the cholera is exported back to the UK where Mugabe says it came from as a form of sabotage.
Our African leaders are so childish at all times.
Our African leaders are so childish at all times.
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