She is exactly 21 days older than me. At 21married her boyfriend of 4 years. They have 2 children, both boys and both healthy, but they lost one, who lived only for two weeks born when both parents were sick already. She told me her tale in 2005 when I was in Zimbabwe, and I did what I could to get her tested. I remember the wait for results. I stayed with her and kept telling her I was positive myself but I was not sick. She was sick. Her husband was sick but had refused to come for a test, the 'small house' (term used in Zimbabwe for concubine) was sick.
She never got to get ARVs. Zimbabwe prefers the sick to die, instead of wasting money earmarked for politicians to loot,on medicines for the ctizens. Her husband, now too weak to have sex with anyone, is being cared for by his mother. It was him who infected his wife, himself having had it from the small house and possibly others. There is othing more evil than a man and I hate men with a passion. There are times when I really have the urge to kill the lot of them.
The two boys will be orphaned soon. Their grandmother has no resources to look after them, so unless a do-gooder steps in, they are condemned to a life of abject poverty and will live at the mercy of those whose parents have been more careful. They are lucky to be boys because they have a much higher choice of whether they want to get HIV or not. Girls have little choice.
I am not angry, I just feel like the end is nigh for the human race. It interests me how a whole nation can ignore a death rate of over 4000 per week since 2001, when the cause of death is something totally avoidable. That is 8 years of 4000 per week and nobody bothers to see it as a national catastrophe, ot even employers, community leaders, church leaders, or anyone of renoun. it is a unique case of national self negligence.
Cholera has been treated the same way. The men of Zimbabwe are condemned to having an affinity for diseases and death. Totally avoidable diseases are just left to affect the wives and children. Nobody cares.
She will be buried today in a cheap coffin made by the other cheap men in her locale. Well wishers have sent in donations of cash in Rand. The husband is too weak to count it. He will have been told that his wife has died, he knows he infected her but he does not accept responsibility for her death. The last time I spoke to him, August 2008, he said, "If Vongai had been more sexual, I would not have needed to go out of the home." In other words, the fault was with Vongai, and for that she died yesterday, and for the same reason he will die soon. The two boys will be orphaned.
Thursday, 5 February 2009
Saturday, 31 January 2009
Sex work will continue to increase
The one industry that will always be positively growing in Africa is Sex work. As long as wives refuse to devote to the sexual needs of their husbands and the husbands refuse to discuss the problem in the homes, sex workers will get more business.
I was talking to a Zimbabwean woman yesterday and she was saying she does not know why her husband has been seeing another woman who is even older that she is. She put it down to Mufuhwira (Obedience whichcraft administered on a man by a woman). The truth of the matter usually is on disatisfaction with sex with the wife. I asked her if she knew what her husband likes sexually. She thought he liked the same as any other man which does not say much for her or him.
I know that Zimbabwean men would rather just go to a sex worker than discuss any improvements with their wives. It is interesting to note that the majority of clients are married. It is unusual to get a single man visiting a sex worker.
The Government of National unity suggested to start on 11 February 2009 will bring a new era of sex work. If it works, more and more people will become affluent again but the majority will remain poor for years to come. Sex work will be a real option and the number of sex workers will increase. In Soth Africa the economy will deteriorate and sex work will insrease.
The interesting thing is there is no social class religious class or group immune to being clients for sex workers. Its a male thing. Most married men would like to try sex workers and once tried, we seem to be addictive to them. We are doing well considering we do not even advertise and we are rather dangerous to health.
Once a man has an erection in the presence of a sex worker, his health, education, responsibility, social standing, integrity, money, etc becomes totally irrelevant. If nobody reminds him to wear a condom, he would remember after the sex when panic sets in. We make money because men's brains are weaker than their penises.
OUr Zimbabwean first lady has used this fact for years.
I was talking to a Zimbabwean woman yesterday and she was saying she does not know why her husband has been seeing another woman who is even older that she is. She put it down to Mufuhwira (Obedience whichcraft administered on a man by a woman). The truth of the matter usually is on disatisfaction with sex with the wife. I asked her if she knew what her husband likes sexually. She thought he liked the same as any other man which does not say much for her or him.
I know that Zimbabwean men would rather just go to a sex worker than discuss any improvements with their wives. It is interesting to note that the majority of clients are married. It is unusual to get a single man visiting a sex worker.
The Government of National unity suggested to start on 11 February 2009 will bring a new era of sex work. If it works, more and more people will become affluent again but the majority will remain poor for years to come. Sex work will be a real option and the number of sex workers will increase. In Soth Africa the economy will deteriorate and sex work will insrease.
The interesting thing is there is no social class religious class or group immune to being clients for sex workers. Its a male thing. Most married men would like to try sex workers and once tried, we seem to be addictive to them. We are doing well considering we do not even advertise and we are rather dangerous to health.
Once a man has an erection in the presence of a sex worker, his health, education, responsibility, social standing, integrity, money, etc becomes totally irrelevant. If nobody reminds him to wear a condom, he would remember after the sex when panic sets in. We make money because men's brains are weaker than their penises.
OUr Zimbabwean first lady has used this fact for years.
Sex work will continue to increase
The one industry that will always be positively growing in Africa is Sex work. As long as wives refuse to devote to the sexual needs of their husbands and the husbands refuse to discuss the problem in the homes, sex workers will get more business.
I was talking to a Zimbabwean woman yesterday and she was saying she does not know why her husband has been seeing another woman who is even older that she is. She put it down to Mufuhwira (Obedience whichcraft administered on a man by a woman). The truth of the matter usually is on disatisfaction with sex with the wife. I asked her if she knew what her husband likes sexually. She thought he liked the same as any other man which does not say much for her or him.
I know that Zimbabwean men would rather just go to a sex worker than discuss any improvements with their wives. It is interesting to note that the majority of clients are married. It is unusual to get a single man visiting a sex worker.
The Government of National unity suggested to start on 11 February 2009 will bring a new era of sex work. If it works, more and more people will become affluent again but the majority will remain poor for years to come. Sex work will be a real option and the number of sex workers will increase. In Soth Africa the economy will deteriorate and sex work will insrease.
The interesting thing is there is no social class religious class or group immune to
I was talking to a Zimbabwean woman yesterday and she was saying she does not know why her husband has been seeing another woman who is even older that she is. She put it down to Mufuhwira (Obedience whichcraft administered on a man by a woman). The truth of the matter usually is on disatisfaction with sex with the wife. I asked her if she knew what her husband likes sexually. She thought he liked the same as any other man which does not say much for her or him.
I know that Zimbabwean men would rather just go to a sex worker than discuss any improvements with their wives. It is interesting to note that the majority of clients are married. It is unusual to get a single man visiting a sex worker.
The Government of National unity suggested to start on 11 February 2009 will bring a new era of sex work. If it works, more and more people will become affluent again but the majority will remain poor for years to come. Sex work will be a real option and the number of sex workers will increase. In Soth Africa the economy will deteriorate and sex work will insrease.
The interesting thing is there is no social class religious class or group immune to
Sunday, 18 January 2009
Thinking of visiting Zimbabwe
I don't know why I should think about Zimbabwe but my mind wants to visit the hell hole. I probably will drive up there. It takes around 20 hours to get there and when I get there I always have the same sinking feeling. Everything is bad in Zimbabwe. Maybe I will wait till the cholera is exported back to the UK where Mugabe says it came from as a form of sabotage.
Our African leaders are so childish at all times.
Our African leaders are so childish at all times.
Wednesday, 31 December 2008
I am glad
I just had to stay awake till midnight. In 15 minutes, I will go out and walk on the beach here in the lovely town of Walvis Bay. I am alive and well. 2008 has seen many of the people I know die around me, many of them younger than me and have had HIV for less time than me. Yet I am alive and not sick.
However I know that tonight many African wives will have been infected with the virus by their husbands. That is a fact nobody can change. A certain number get it each day in Southern Africa where the most dangerous thing a woman can do is to get married.
Happy 2009. A condom a day makes life more fun.
However I know that tonight many African wives will have been infected with the virus by their husbands. That is a fact nobody can change. A certain number get it each day in Southern Africa where the most dangerous thing a woman can do is to get married.
Happy 2009. A condom a day makes life more fun.
Wednesday, 24 December 2008
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year
I wish all HIV Carriers and AIDS patients and their carers, researchers, and all those on earth advocating compulsory testing for all living humans followed by the issue of cards, Red for HIV positive, and Green for negative, a very merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
I sincerely hope that you will appreciate that compulsory mass testing would remove the stigma completely, specially in Southern and Central Africa where it would be clearly shown that those posaitive are in the majority and stigmatising them is not sustainable.
I also hope that governments will see that mass testing is the best way to ensure that those negative can choose negatives for sex and those positive can also be accepted by fellow positives for sex and it would be much easier to educate the negatives to stay negative and to monitor acceptance of the message. Fewer children would be made orphans like I was, and positive reduction of infection rates would me measurable.
Clever humans like Bill Clinton, himself a keen sexual experimenter of some international renoun, agrees with me on this one. He is by far my model man.
I sincerely hope that you will appreciate that compulsory mass testing would remove the stigma completely, specially in Southern and Central Africa where it would be clearly shown that those posaitive are in the majority and stigmatising them is not sustainable.
I also hope that governments will see that mass testing is the best way to ensure that those negative can choose negatives for sex and those positive can also be accepted by fellow positives for sex and it would be much easier to educate the negatives to stay negative and to monitor acceptance of the message. Fewer children would be made orphans like I was, and positive reduction of infection rates would me measurable.
Clever humans like Bill Clinton, himself a keen sexual experimenter of some international renoun, agrees with me on this one. He is by far my model man.
Tuesday, 23 December 2008
Another Christmas
I know there are still two days to go but the amazing thing is I have survived to see another Christmas and might even see my birthday after the New Year.
I feel good and healthy. I look good. I am eating well and ave not had Cholera even when I went there recently.
However, Christmas is the time when in Africa many men travel to their rural homes from towns. There they take time to have sex with whatever woman they can isolate long enough to have sex with. Condoms are hardly ever used. Pregnancies are common, and so are STI's By January 15, many of you in Southern Africa will be looking death in the eye.
You should have your own condoms by now stashed away and carrying some in your handbag just in case. Men have no idea where to get them. Carry you own.
Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy new year.
I feel good and healthy. I look good. I am eating well and ave not had Cholera even when I went there recently.
However, Christmas is the time when in Africa many men travel to their rural homes from towns. There they take time to have sex with whatever woman they can isolate long enough to have sex with. Condoms are hardly ever used. Pregnancies are common, and so are STI's By January 15, many of you in Southern Africa will be looking death in the eye.
You should have your own condoms by now stashed away and carrying some in your handbag just in case. Men have no idea where to get them. Carry you own.
Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy new year.
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